Love – ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?

During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”

The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?” Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind
replied the author.

Here’s the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you
fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls,
want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.

People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you
may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO! ♥

 
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Tum Nahi…

Sab Kuch Mere Saath Hai Magar,
Tum Nahi…
Wohi Din Wohi Raat Hai Magar,
Tum Nahi…
Wohi Sham Ka Dhalta Suraj,
Wohi Tut Te Sitaare,
Phir Tanha Meri Raat Hai Magar,
Tum Nahi…
Pyaar Ke Jis Mode Pe Saath Chode Gaye,
Khade Aaj Ussi Mode Pe Hai Magar,
Tum Nahi…
Badhti Betaabi Ye Bekashi Aur Meri Ye Tanhai,
Labon Pe Sirf Teri Baat Hai Magar,
Tum Nahi…
Woh Waqt Jo Guzraa Tha Tere Hum Raah Kabhi,
Ruke Wahi Lamhaat Hain Magar,
Tum Nahi…
Tum Nahi…
Tum Nahi…

tum nahi

Logon ne kaha sharabi se….

Logon ne kaha sharabi se….
mat pee aey sharabi itna,
yu peene se kaha ghum mite hai

ispe sharabi ne jawab diya…

nahi pita mai sharab apne ghum mitane ke liye, (2)
pita hu bas is jalte dil ko bujhane ke liye,
pita hu is duniya se door jane ke liye,
pita hu uski yaadon mai kho jane ke liye,

yeh jantahu usse pana ab meri kismat mai nahi, (2)
isiliye pita hu apni hasti mitane ke liye….

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Ek dost tha mera jo kahi kho gaya…. cont….

Ek dost tha mera jo kahi kho gaya,
jane kaise vo mujhse juda ho gaya,

jo kehta tha apni dosti har pal nibhaunga,
bas ek awaaz de na dauda chala aaunga,

kaisi ranjish mai na jane mera dost fasa hai,
kis desh jane dost mera ghar bana basa hai,

gila hai nahi naa hi shikwa tujhse koi,
na hi tere door jane ki wajah koi,

kehte hai dosti ka rishta upar wala nahi hum khud banate hai,
fir na jane kyu dost is rishte ko bhool tanha chod jate hai.

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Mere dost kaha kho gaye….

jo kehte the mujhe dost kabhi,
jo milte the har roz kabhi,

jinhe yaad karta mai jab kabhi,
khade ho jate samne tabhi ke tabhi,

vo saath mai rehna, khoob masti karna,
mushkilon ke daur me saath hokar ladna,

vo tapri mai milna, vo class bunk karna,

vo saath baith ke lecturer ko jhelna,
lecture ke waqt canteen mai patte khelna,

aur jab aati exams mai padne ke baari,
jane kaha se aajati sab ko bimari,

ek ladki ke saath ek dusre ki pairing,
ek sutte ki sab doston mai sharing,

kuch paise hote the haath mai,
par sab dost rehte the saath mai,

vo bhi kya daur tha kya aalam tha,
us waqt humko yeh kaha malum tha,

ki ek din sab ek dusre se juda ho jayenge,
apni zindagi mai na jane kahi kho jayenge,

aaj na waqt hai kisi ko yaad karne ko,
aaj na waqt hai kisi se baat karne ko,

agar koi milne ki bhi fariyaad kare,
toh waqt nahi hai mulakat karne ko,

aaj kehne ko mai hu aur mere dost hai,
sab aapni aapni zindagi mai mast hai,

paise toh bohat hai haath mai,
par mere dost nahi mere saath mai,

jo kehte the mujhe dost kabhi jane kaha ghum ho gaye,
is paise hi bhag daud mai jane mere dost kaha kho gaye,
jane mere dost kaha kho gaye,
jane mere dost kaha kho gaye….

i was replaced….

She said she loved once
She said she loved twice
She said she loved thrice
She said she loved many times

we had a great relationship
but today we are apart,
she married to someone whom,
she dint knew since start

but today when you ask her,
whom does she think of all her day,
she would say it very proudly,
the one whom she is married today.

once i thought love was for all,
but now i think love is just fuck all,

those where days when in our hearts
eachothers names were placed,
my heart still have that name,
in her heart my name have been replaced….

God does Speak to Us….. Trust him

This will give you the chills……. GOOD chills.

A young man had been to Wednesday Night Bible
Study.

The Pastor had shared about listening to God and obeying the Lord’s voice

The young man couldn’t help but wonder, ‘Does God still speak to people?’

After service, he went out with some friends for coffee and pie and they discussed the message.
Several different ones talked about how God had led them in different ways.

It was about ten o’clock when the young man started
driving home. Sitting in his car, he just began to pray, ‘God… If you still speak to people, speak to me. I will listen. I will do my best to obey.’

As he drove down the main street of his town, he had the strangest thought to stop and buy a gallon of milk.

He shook his head and said out loud, ‘God is that you?’ He didn’t get a reply and started on toward home.

But again, the thought, buy a gallon of milk.

The young man thought about Samuel and how he didn’t recognize the voice of God, and how little Samuel ran to Eli.

‘Okay, God, in case that is you, I will buy the milk.’ It didn’t seem like too hard a test of obedience. He could always use the milk. He stopped and purchased the gallon of milk and started off toward home.

As he passed Seventh Street, he again felt the urge, ‘Turn Down that street.’

This is crazy he thought, and drove on past the intersection.

Again, he felt that he should turn down Seventh Street.

At the next intersection, he turned back and headed down Seventh.

Half jokingly, he said out loud,

‘Okay, God, I will.’

He drove several blocks, when suddenly, he felt like he should stop He pulled over to the curb and looked around. He was in a semi-commercial area of town. It wasn’t the best but it wasn’t the worst of neighborhoods either.
The businesses were closed and most of the houses looked dark like the people were already in bed.

Again, he sensed something, ‘Go and give the milk to the people in the house across the street.’ The young man looked at the house. It was dark and it looked like the people were either gone or they were already asleep. He started to open the door and then sat back in the car seat.

‘Lord, this is insane. Those people are asleep and if I wake them up, they are going to be mad and I will look stupid.’ Again, he felt like he should go and give the milk.

Finally, he opened the door,
‘Okay God, if this is you, I will go to the door and I will give them the milk. If you want me to look like a crazy person, okay. I want to be obedient. I guess that will count for something, but if they don’t answer right away, I am out of here.’

He walked across the street and rang the bell. He could hear some noise inside. A man’s voice yelled
out, ‘Who is it? What do you want?’ Then the door opened before the young man could get away.

The man was standing there in his jeans and T-shirt. He looked like he just got out of bed. He had a strange look on his face and he didn’t seem too happy to have some stranger standing on his doorstep. ‘What is it?’

The young man thrust out the gallon of milk, ‘Here, I brought this to you.’ The man took the milk and rushed down a hallway.

Then from down the hall came a woman carrying the milk toward the kitchen. The man was following her holding a baby. The baby was crying. The man had tears streaming down his face.

The man began speaking and half crying,
‘We were just praying. We had
some big bills this month and we ran out of money. We didn’t have any milk for our baby. I was just praying and asking God to show me how to get some milk.’

His wife in the kitchen yelled out, ‘I asked him to send an Angel with some. Are you an Angel?’

The young man reached into his wallet and pulled out all the money he had on him and put in the man’s hand. He turned and walked back towards his car and the tears were streaming down his face.
He knew that God still answers prayers.